I left my husband, Todd, at home in Michigan last week while I flew with our teenage son to Florida during his spring break. Getting away takes planning and requires a lot of help at home while I’m gone. For me to be able to leave, we had to assemble…
Joyful Sorrow - a Column by Kristin Neva
When my husband Todd’s new power wheelchair was delivered, he tried a device that allowed him to control it with his eyes. It included software running on a tablet computer and an eye-tracking system mounted to the front of the chair. He found the system frustrating because he was…
My husband, Todd, and I work on New York Times puzzles while we eat breakfast. I sit next to him and feed him bites of his breakfast while I eat, too. One puzzle we work on is the Spelling Bee, where we earn points by forming words from seven different…
After living with my husband Todd’s ALS for more than 15 years, shouldn’t I be better at navigating this disease? Author Malcolm Gladwell popularized the idea that mastery comes after 10,000 hours of doing something. If that’s true, then surely I should have ALS figured out by now.
The outside temperature was cold, just 15 F, but the sun was shining, so I decided to forgo my elliptical machine and instead walk down our country road. I checked on my husband, Todd, to make sure it was OK to leave, and then slid into my snow pants and…
There are both big and little losses that come with ALS, for the person with the disease and their family. Each stage of the disease brings something new to grieve. When my husband, Todd, was diagnosed in 2010, one of our biggest losses was the future that we…
Wake me up if Todd is in distress,” I said to his nighttime caregiver. “Of course,” she replied. It’s not something I typically say to one of my husband’s regular caregivers, but I felt on edge. I said good night and tried to get some rest, but my mind was…
My husband, Todd, finally got in his new wheelchair! After it was delivered in September, I wrote that we needed to have the attendant control reprogrammed. That finally happened, and we’ve been fine-tuning the chair over the past week. Although both are the same brand, there are differences between…
Last night, I had a dream in which my husband, Todd, did not have ALS. It was a bit of sweet respite from my day-to-day life, and I woke up missing that old version of us. In real life, I am Todd’s caregiver. He is completely paralyzed and needs…
Last weekend, I left my husband, Todd, with a caregiver while I attended our daughter’s dance performance at Northern Michigan University. “Love Is A Burning Thing: A Johnny Cash Ballet” was the CO/LAB Dance Company’s tribute to Johnny Cash, featuring a number of his songs. The energy in…
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