Joyful Sorrow - a Column by Kristin Neva

My husband, Todd, and I celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary this week. We’ve spent 16 of those years with ALS since Todd’s diagnosis in 2010. I’ve been thinking recently about how we have found meaning within this difficult life we’ve been living for so long. Todd and Kristin…

Nine years ago, and seven years into my husband Todd’s ALS journey, we were still trying our best to get out and have a normal life. That fall, our 8-year-old son came home from school with a flyer from a local church. They were hosting a Harvest Festival and…

I planned an end-of-summer trip to spend time with my daughter and friends near Milwaukee, Wisconsin, where my husband, Todd, and I lived when he was diagnosed with ALS 16 years ago. I needed time away from being constantly on duty. The trip also gave me a new perspective…

My husband, Todd, and I recently finished watching the NBC series “The Good Place,” a comedy that explores some of life’s big questions about meaning. In the season three finale, the character Eleanor Shellstrop searches for the answer that will make everything make sense as she tries to…

My brother and his family visited from out of town for a few days, so I planned a couple activities away from home and hired a caregiver for my husband, Todd, who has ALS and is paralyzed. Now that his neck is very weak and he needs noninvasive…

Last week, the winds shifted, bringing plumes of smoke from wildfires in Minnesota’s Boundary Waters and Canada across Lake Superior to Michigan’s Keweenaw Peninsula. While our lives and homes are not at risk, unlike those in the areas burning, the smoke still affects daily life. It’s especially concerning for people…

A couple months ago, I planted zinnia and strawflower seeds in two plastic bins and set them in the sunlight under our patio window in my dining room. I’ve grown vegetables from seeds in the past, but never flowers. Vegetables feel practical because food is necessary to sustain life, while…