Closing the Gap Between Self and Care

Closing the Gap Between Self and Care

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Just mention the term self-care in any conversation and you’ll soon have many different definitions. It can be medical, describing how patients with a chronic disease are taught to self-manage their illness. Or self-care can mean the pursuit of personal wellness and a healthy lifestyle. And we’ve all seen those endless self-care lists that focus on topics like how to take a break from stress and get re-energized.

But now that I live with ALS, I’ve learned that self-care has one more meaning. For me, self-care is more than just doing things; self-care is an attitude I take toward myself — my inner self.

During the 1980s, I had the opportunity to be a part of the growing wellness movement. I taught students at our Center for Health & Well-Being that wellness was going beyond taking care of one’s basic needs to survive. Our version of self-care included good nutrition, exercise, meaningful work, social connections, and spiritual values. It was a balancing of body, mind, and spirit.

And that same wellness philosophy continues to be a priority in my life today. But now I’ve made room for one more dimension of self-care.

With ALS there are two kinds of self-care

The first is used by our caregivers, who follow the well-founded advice of “take care of yourself before taking care of others.” Caregivers avoid burnout and compassion fatigue by taking time off, following self-care tips, or by taking advantage of respite care.

On the other hand, for patients, ALS is 24/7; there are no mini-breaks or weekends off from the disease. Our challenge is to avoid feeling overwhelmed, and coping is no longer possible.

My first symptom showed up as a weak right foot that dragged with each step. I called it “my stupid foot” and felt anger that my once fit body was letting me down. Later, as both legs were affected and my speech declined, I looked for something — someone — to blame, and my thoughts pointed right back at me.

Deep down, I knew I didn’t cause my ALS, and negative thinking wasn’t healthy for my well-being.

How do I care for my inner self?

I decided to add one more dimension to my self-care: attitude.

I practice mindfulness and have made a New Year’s resolution to own the moment. While I am being present, I extend loving kindness to myself.

Self-care IS care of our self — our inner self. For anyone with ALS, maintaining a sense of self is a priority. We do that by honoring our needs and working within our limitations. Self-care is vital for our well-being.

We have a choice: to simply live with ALS or to live well while living with ALS.

I choose the latter and invite you to join me.

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When Dagmar Munn was diagnosed with ALS in 2010, she tapped into her nearly 30 years of professional experience helping others reach and achieve their health goals. She not only follows her own wellness and fitness advice but inspires and teaches others to do the same through her ALS and Wellness Blog. Dagmar enjoys finding humor in life’s situations and spends her free time pursuing creative projects in fiber arts.
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When Dagmar Munn was diagnosed with ALS in 2010, she tapped into her nearly 30 years of professional experience helping others reach and achieve their health goals. She not only follows her own wellness and fitness advice but inspires and teaches others to do the same through her ALS and Wellness Blog. Dagmar enjoys finding humor in life’s situations and spends her free time pursuing creative projects in fiber arts.

3 comments

  1. AJ Front says:

    There is no break. And it completely changes your sense of self, your identity and even your self confidence in basic bodily functions everyone gets to not think about 24/7.

    Getting over the overwhelming uncertain is impossible and I’m one of the lucky ones, because what I have right now has been deemed benign fasiculations. But the mood fits is a big component of what never gets the forefront when cramps, constant fasiculations, subluxations, and pain are screaming into all the falls and dropped dishes, missed bites and swallows, hard words.

    Being positive and mindful is one of the only ways I’m getting better, because like you I’m making a choice to keep fighting and grow in the face of monumental emotional challenges, never mind the frustrating in just moving or sleeping or sitting or eating. I can still grow my brain and try to lengthen those telomeres. I understand levels of pain and rings of hell most people never get to experience in their life.

    Figuring out how to manage everything and not make it WHO I am is a fight I still have a chance of winning.

    I loved this post. Cheers and all the best wishes to you.

  2. Eileen says:

    Self TLC – I like it and love you for sharing your wisdom. You continue to inspire me and I am honored to have you in my life!

  3. Julie VM says:

    Once again Dagmar, you have nailed it! Loving kindness towards oneself is essential, no matter what your “condition”. This leads toward feeling that way toward others as well. Lovingkindness, The Revolutionary Art of Happiness by Sharon Salzberg is an excellent source of how to work on this. I read pieces from her book several times a week, and as she says, “attending to the small things in front of us becomes a way of self renewal and self-refreshment.”

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