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Often I do some of my deepest thinking when I’m alone in the car. I regularly drive 35 minutes to ride my horse, and I like to spend that time in silence. That’s when I think about people to contact or items on my to-do list for the week ahead.

Last Sunday, on the morning of our 22nd wedding anniversary, as I was getting my husband, Todd, out of bed, he asked if I’d heard the song “To Build a Home.” I hadn’t. “Alexa, play ‘To Build a Home‘ by the Cinematic Orchestra and Patrick Watson,” Todd said.

I know I’ve said this many times, but it’s worth repeating: One of the most important lessons ALS has taught me is to never give up. This leads me into this week’s column. It’s a story about shoes and my pursuit of the perfect pair. Spoiler alert: There’s a…

I was on schedule Monday morning to get out the door by 11:45 until I had an unwelcome visitor. I had a noon appointment for something that would be difficult to reschedule, so I got my husband, Todd, out of bed early. I parked his power wheelchair at his counter-height…

This summer, I’ve been superfocused on a special fix-up project — namely, my posture. Why? Because earlier this year, whether I was sitting, standing, or walking, I noticed a slow slump forward of my upper body. Oh, I’d always begin sitting tall, but somehow, I’d morph into a shorter me.

I remember the first caregiving task that I completed for my late husband, Jeff, after he was diagnosed with ALS in the fall of 2018. His symptoms had started with a foot drop, and by the time of his diagnosis, his right foot had become paralyzed. It became my…

Having ALS is certainly no laughing matter. But I’ve found over the years that it can give rise to many humorous moments. On some days, in fact, finding the funny while in a frustrating situation has been one of my best coping strategies. That’s why I was taken aback to…

I was recently asked, “What can I do to support someone diagnosed with ALS?” I thought back to the days after my husband, Todd, was diagnosed with the disease. We knew little about it, except that it resulted in paralysis and usually death within two to five years.

When I checked my email last Wednesday morning, I was delighted to see a message in my inbox titled “Birthday Memories.” It was from my husband, Todd, who was still in bed sleeping; he must’ve scheduled the email to surprise me on my 48th birthday. I sat down with my…

Thirteen years ago, we built an accessible home to accommodate my husband Todd’s progressive disability due to ALS. A general contractor supervised much of the construction, but we took on some of the work, including the landscaping. Todd was shaky on his feet and his arms were weak; nonetheless…