During National Family Caregivers Month, We Say Thank You!

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by Dagmar Munn |

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Although it’s hard to find much to celebrate in 2020, this year happens to mark an important milestone for my husband and me. I’m celebrating achieving 10 years of living with ALS, and for my husband, 2020 marks a decade of his role as a caregiver — to me.

I appreciate his taking on this challenging responsibility more than he’ll ever know. So, with November being National Family Caregivers Month, I’m sharing a special “thank you” to him, and to all ALS caregivers, especially those caregivers who are a spouse or a family member.

Following are a few of the caregiving and care-accepting lessons we’ve learned during our past 10 years of living with ALS.

Roles reverse

For some ALS patients and their caregivers, the roles reverse almost immediately. Ours was a slow creep. Gradually, my ALS symptoms caused me to first give up cooking, then doing laundry, and finally driving and running errands by myself. My husband willingly took on all the duties — although with cooking he jokingly declared, “If it doesn’t go in the microwave or between two slices of bread, it’s not on the menu.”

You can see that maintaining a sense of humor in our relationship is high on the list.

Communication is key

Are there times when stressful events, changes in symptoms, and unexpected challenges cause us to lash out and feel frustrated? Yup.

But that’s the time we pause to take a breath, say “I’m sorry,” and immediately talk it out. A simple communication technique that works for us is the complimentcorrectioncompliment method I described in “How to Coach the Coach: Make It a Sandwich.”

However, talking is only half of the equation, while listening is the other half.

Over time, our lives can become routine, conversations feel dull, and we can easily tune each other out. Additionally, my ALS-related dysarthria often causes minor misunderstandings.

We practice what’s called active listening. This involves looking at the person speaking and repeating back what they said if the words didn’t make sense.

Finally, practice the art of adaptability. We try to keep an open mind. We’re willing to experiment, think outside the box, and invent safe workarounds. If plans A, B, or C don’t work out, we keep going all the way to plans X, Y, and Z.

Caregiving is a partnership between the giver and the receiver of care. Caregivers deserve our recognition and gratitude. So, this month, if you know someone who is a caregiver, give them a hug.

To all caregivers and care-receivers around the world: I salute you. Together, we can learn to live well while living with ALS.


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Ron Munn

Thank you for your understanding and lovely comment on my care giving role during your journey with ALS. Although there are challenges along the road, our love and understanding for each other makes all the difference. Stay strong.....

Love ya, Ron

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Greetings All! I am so fortunate to have Family Caregivers ! daughters family lives across the road! I was diagnosed in 2014 and I now need lots of TLC! I give them all an A+ for seeing to my needs! My husband has been coping well,but, we now need assistance! My Daughter Rochelle does all my nutritional needs at home! Queen of Purées! She is are Director in charge! We now have an aide come in 2 days a week ! Rochelle works full time. So, having the aide come in gives him time to take a break! Peace and Love All!
Caregivers are Saints !


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