I’m Learning to Heed My ‘Aha’ Moments While Living with ALS

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I’ve always believed that I was open to new ways of doing things, but having ALS has put me to the test. My pride and a little denial have often gotten in the way of my seeing the obvious solutions to a problem. Thank goodness an “aha” moment came to my rescue and helped to point me in the right direction.

Safety, safety, everywhere!

Two years after my ALS diagnosis, I was feeling smug about having implemented some safety measures throughout our home. For example, I used a wheeled walker to steady my balance, the bathroom had several strategically placed grab bars, and I even had a chair near my closet so I could sit down while getting dressed.

But on this particular morning, as I stood in the shower, I found myself in a losing battle, attempting a one-handed shampooing of my hair while my other hand held the grab bar in a “death grip.” Meanwhile, both of my legs had tensed up and needed to bend. But I was afraid to move. As water swirled around my feet, I knew I was just one soapy misstep away from a nasty fall.

Suddenly a voice in my head said, “This is why people use shower chairs. Duh!”

I’ll be the first to admit that for a long time, I was resistant to buying and using a shower chair. Oh, I had all the excuses: I didn’t need one, getting one meant I was giving up, and shower chairs are for old people!

Later, while talking with my husband, I could sense his relief at my decision. We immediately searched online and ordered a shower chair that met my standards.

Did it help?

Once I began using my new shower chair, I wondered why I didn’t get one sooner.

Sitting gave me full use of both my hands, my body felt relaxed, and the chair gave me the luxury of time to enjoy taking a shower.

  • Did I need a shower chair? Most definitely, yes. I had been in denial about my abilities.
  • Was I giving up? No. I am staying in control of how I function in my environment.
  • Are shower chairs only for old people? No, smart people of all ages use them.

Have more ‘aha’ moments

Practicing mindfulness and being “in the moment” will help increase your awareness of your daily habits and environment, and of change. When an “aha” moment happens, follow the three steps I wrote about in a previous column, “The Art of ALS Adaptability“: assess, adapt, and accept.

Assess: Look at the situation realistically, not emotionally.

Adapt: Keep an open mind.

Accept: Stay positive and focus on the goal.

Heed your “aha” moments and learn how to live well while living with ALS.


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Hwaida avatar


Cannot but agree. Unfortunately, my mother looked at things from emotional perspective and gave us hard time accepting solutions.

Dave Reckonin avatar

Dave Reckonin

"Look at the situation realistically, not emotionally."
I have been promoting this i.e. realism, for almost three years.
Not every wants to go down that road.

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Dagmar Munn

Realism....with a good dose of humor thrown in :-)

Nancey avatar


Be strong...

Cate Prato avatar

Cate Prato

This just happened with me and a 'commode.' I was resisting it because I thought it would look ugly and clinical in my recently renovated powder room, it would be inconvenient for others--not to mention it's existence would mean I couldn't get up by myself. Then, I had a few episodes where I was 'stranded' there when no one was home or within hearing range. So, we got one with a dark bluish gray seat and lid which looks great in the tiny room! Now, I don't dread 'going,' and more importantly, I feel more independent now that I can easily get up off the seat. I won't put off the next accommodation!


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