My partner has been diagnosed for about 2 1/2 years. Early on I felt I could do everything. As the disease progressed and he lost the use of his arms and legs, it became apparent that I was burning out and feared I would start making mistakes with his care. Fortunately for us he is a military veteran and the services provided to both of us are awesome. We have family therapy once a month, private as needed, his ALS nurse and the entire ALS team in the hospital continue to be wonderful. I do not feel I am here alone. I need something, reach out to the VA and they are there. We have also hired two Aides. One has become his personal friend and I think a family member. The other one is learning and we hope she decides to stay. Finally, the family has been insisting I take respite. I have trouble detaching but have finally rented a house down the NJ shore and in October my dog and I are going away for a week. Jon has been very supportive I hope to mentally heal a bit a sleep a few extra hours a day.