Joyful Sorrow — Kristin Neva

Last week, my husband, Todd, celebrated his 55th birthday — a milestone we never anticipated after he was diagnosed with ALS at age 39 in June 2010. For his 40th birthday that October, I asked friends and family to send me pictures and their favorite memories with Todd, and…

“What do you think about having one thimbleberry design on one side of a mug and a different one on the other?” I asked my husband, Todd. We’d been brainstorming ideas for some print-on-demand items that I might try selling. Todd has had a fixed income ever since he was…

My frustration brought me to tears today, and I had to take a step back and remember to care for myself in addition to caring for my husband, Todd, who has ALS. Todd’s new wheelchair was delivered today, and like the one he’s been in for the past 11…

I caught up with an old friend last weekend. We were in a moms’ group when our now college-age children were just babies. She was visiting our small town because her son goes to college here. It’s hard to believe that we met nearly two decades ago — and harder…

Cooler-than-average temperatures these last few weeks are turning our maple trees red, reminding me that winter is just around the corner. Due to caring for my husband, Todd, who has ALS, I don’t often get out to see the best of Michigan’s Upper Peninsula — such as the shores…

A friend who stopped by for a visit last weekend asked my husband, Todd, “Anything new?” “Not really,” he said. “So no more choking incidents?” she asked. “There have been choking incidents, and Kristin has to clear my lungs every couple days,” he replied, “but you asked if there was…

Before my husband, Todd, had ALS, he enjoyed cooking. He often made omelets on Saturday mornings. He was skilled with a chef’s knife and cut ingredients quickly and finely before cooking the egg to perfection. I miss eating his omelets. Although I do all the actual cooking now,…

Last Sunday, on the morning of our 22nd wedding anniversary, as I was getting my husband, Todd, out of bed, he asked if I’d heard the song “To Build a Home.” I hadn’t. “Alexa, play ‘To Build a Home‘ by the Cinematic Orchestra and Patrick Watson,” Todd said.

I was on schedule Monday morning to get out the door by 11:45 until I had an unwelcome visitor. I had a noon appointment for something that would be difficult to reschedule, so I got my husband, Todd, out of bed early. I parked his power wheelchair at his counter-height…

I was recently asked, “What can I do to support someone diagnosed with ALS?” I thought back to the days after my husband, Todd, was diagnosed with the disease. We knew little about it, except that it resulted in paralysis and usually death within two to five years.

When I checked my email last Wednesday morning, I was delighted to see a message in my inbox titled “Birthday Memories.” It was from my husband, Todd, who was still in bed sleeping; he must’ve scheduled the email to surprise me on my 48th birthday. I sat down with my…

Thirteen years ago, we built an accessible home to accommodate my husband Todd’s progressive disability due to ALS. A general contractor supervised much of the construction, but we took on some of the work, including the landscaping. Todd was shaky on his feet and his arms were weak; nonetheless…