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      Hi there,

      I am not the primary caregiver for S, who is my sister’s husband. My sister is his caregiver but I am very close to them and their four kids and sometimes I feel so helpless. The other day, my BIL expressed through text (he no longer can talk) how alone he feels in this experience. I don’t know how therapy would work because he can’t communicate very quickly as he’s basically typing everything out and I wondered if it would be more beneficial to actually communicate with someone going through the same experience. I haven’t asked him yet if this is even something he’d want but the other day when he expressed feeling alone, my heart shattered. They have a busy house but everyone is coming and going and currently he’s chair bound because recently he fell and fractured his leg. I want to sit with him when my sister has to go to work but then, what kind of company does he really want? I wonder if proposing communication with someone online who is experiencing some of the same fears of death and the feeling of being ‘locked in’ might help him.

      What do you think?


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      Dagmar Munn

      Scotty, your brother-in-law is lucky to have you. Your kindness and compassion for him shine through.

      You didn’t mention how long he has had ALS, but I suspect by your comments, not very long – – in that he has not yet made any connections within the ALS community.

      All of us pALS here in the forum experience the same fears of our future (and death) and we are in various stages of immobility. So, I believe the best thing for him is not to see a therapist, but have the kind of therapy had from meeting and communicating with people who, like him, have ALS.

      Certainly spend time sitting with him. And use that time to help him join this forum. Then together, check out these Facebook groups: “Bulbar ALS Support Group” (2.9K members) and for lively conversations try: “ALS – Patient and Caregiver tips for every day living” (18.6K members).  … there are tons more groups, but this is a start.

      How about pointing him to my ALS and Wellness Blog…. start with my ALS Humor posts….

      Connecting to others virtually is a way to come out of isolation. I’m sure our other members will come up with more suggestions. In the meantime, try a few of mine 🙂

    • #20704
      Kathy stitz

      It’s admirable that you care so much about your brother-in-law and want to help him as much as possible.   ALS can indeed be a very isolating experience. Does your brother-in-law have any family members or friends that text him or come to visit him?  I agree with Dagmar that you could encourage him to join this forum in order to communicate with other ALS patients.   Here he will find other pALS who understand what he is going through and can offer support and encouragement.   These are people who still want to help others, even though they are suffering greatly themselves.

      All of us pALS fear what our lives will be like in the future and fear death.  There’s no cure for ALS and it has a poor prognosis.   Many pALS only live for a few years after being diagnosed.   I hope your brother-in-law will reach out for support because it’s so important to do so and I wish him all the best!


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